A Tooth, a House and the Dance

A Tooth, a House and the Dance, week 12 in the continuing life of the Carr family.

The Dance

“Exactly 5 ½ years ago today, I met someone who changed my life, and now would like to make that person my wife, so through the power of radio, Nathalie de Rooy, will you marry me”

Words I wrote and produced into my proposal to Nathalie that aired in Toronto, December 20, 1995. I guess it is no secret she said yes, but what you would only know if you where there that beautiful Saturday, a year and a half later in a Church in Scarborough when we stood at the alter and exchanged our vows in front of family and friends was how great of a day it was.

Last year, while attending a Jewish wedding of a friend, the rabbi talked about the importance of the wedding ceremony, and the fact that everything in your life together will always come back to this important day as the symbolic day of beginning. Both Nathalie and I talked about how much that made sense and that we had never looked at it like that before. It is easy to see that now, if we look back to how great of a day it was that warm July afternoon, 13 years ago this week for us, it was the first of so many wonderful things that have happened to us as a married couple.

As you can imagine, 13 years in any relationship will have an ebb and flow, and for two very passionate people we have experienced a lot, but all said and done, I look back to my wonderful life with the one I love, and I would not change anything if I could. The only wish I may have is, that the new people in our lives that where not there could somehow magically be in attendance. To have ALL the wonderful people that make a difference in our lives today, share in our celebration 13 years ago would be a blast. If you could have seen how stunning Nathalie was, to see the smiles on both of our faces that never left all day and to see us dance under the stars at the end of our night, you might have been able to imagine what lay ahead. The children, then in our hearts and minds, now running around and making us laugh each day and the house we would make a home and the friends we would eventually have. I can tell you this, life as it is now is much better then anything I could have imagined and for that I thank my love and dance partner of the rest of my life.

Marriage is like dancing to an ever-changing song, the beats are different and rhythms are new, but the partners follow along…

I love you Nathalie!
xoxo

The tooth count
Julia would like to point out that this week she lost another tooth and scored the crisp new 5-dollar bill from the tooth fairy. If you are keeping score, she is up $10 with one tooth still on the verge. She keeps counting her money and I am guessing dreaming of all she is going to buy with her loot.

The house
We did another drop in visit for measuring the new house this week. It turns out that the first time we did some measuring; a couple of weeks ago we missed some stuff. This time in the car going home, we realized we missed something else this time too, but with only 6 days until we get the keys, we should have enough to go by. The family we bought the house from is so nice, and so very accommodating that I think it is a good sign of things to come. He was so happy to show me the box of manuals and important house related stuff he is leaving for us and I am happy too.

In closing
I am even more of the belief that everything that happens, happens for a reason, this week after hearing some news about the first house we put the offer in on. It turns out a family that we know put in an offer after ours was rejected because we did not want to pay what they had it listed for. They did want to pay, so won the house, but it turns out it did not pass the home inspection. Some major electrical issues it turns out and so unfortunately the family that we know canceled the deal and are moving to Milton.

So the life lesson this week is a recurring one – Everything in life happens for a reason, and in the moment, you can’t always understand why and sometimes you are even upset about it but in the end you are better to just let it ride.

Let it ride and look for next weeks blog to be a bit of a history lesson, and a blow by blow of picking up the keys to our first house!

Have a great week!
Jim